Why Women Desire the Boss?

Walk into any IT company, college project group, corporate office, or even a shop floor, and the story plays out the same way. A young woman joins, instantly becoming the center of attention. Dozens of young men rush to impress her — offering validation, cracking jokes, trying to help her with small tasks, or buying her coffee. The entire male crowd works overtime to win her attention.

But something else happens quietly. While the young men keep orbiting around her, her real interest shifts in another direction. Not toward the handsome coder with trendy sneakers, not toward the funny intern cracking jokes, but toward the team lead, the project manager, the man in charge.

He may be 38, not particularly attractive, already married with two kids, and certainly not the kind of man younger men think women dream about. Yet she gravitates toward him. She looks for his approval, laughs at his small remarks, and finds ways to spend time around him. Her attention bypasses the entire army of eager young guys.

The young men are baffled: “How can she ignore us for him?” They call her shallow, manipulative, or illogical. But the truth is far more uncomfortable: it is psychology hardwired into female instincts.

The Primal Pull of Power

For thousands of years, women’s survival depended on choosing men who held power, authority, and control over their environment.

• In the village, it was the headman.

• In the tribe, it was the warrior chief.

• Today, in offices, it is the boss or team leader.

The signal women respond to is not six-pack abs, fancy shirts, or funny one-liners. It is social dominance — the ability to command others, influence decisions, and hold authority in a hierarchy.

Even today, a 22-year-old intern can feel a stronger pull toward a 38-year-old married manager than to ten young, good-looking “techies” buzzing around her. Why? Because her instincts whisper: “This man controls resources, influence, and protection. Being close to him makes me secure.”

Beyond Looks or Morality

What shocks young men is that this pull is not logical in the way men imagine attraction should be.

• The man may not be handsome.

• He may already have a family.

• The girl herself may already have a boyfriend.

Still, she feels no guilt if she engages with him. Why? Because subconscious attraction is not about fairness or romance, it is about aligning with the man who holds power.

This is why many educated and “independent” women still gravitate toward authority figures: professors, managers, politicians, even spiritual gurus. In villages, they cluster around the sarpanch. In corporations, around the CEO. In families, around the elder patriarch. Across cultures and centuries, the attraction to authority is universal.

Urban Culture, Ancient Instincts

In the modern corporate world, this often disguises itself under the names of “networking,” “mentorship,” or “career guidance.” But beneath the polite packaging, the pull is the same as it was 5,000 years ago in tribal camps: women cluster toward the alpha position.

This is not limited to women chasing material benefits like promotions or wealth. Even young interns with nothing to gain in career terms still feel the magnetic pull of authority. Because this attraction is not something they calculate. It is inherent wiring, rooted deep in survival psychology.

Young Women Under 25: Clarity of Choices

Contrary to the stereotype that young women are confused about what they want, the opposite is often true. Women under 25 are remarkably clear about their choices.

• If she seeks marriage, she knows exactly the “type” she wants: maturity, stability, resources, or social value.

• If she already has a boyfriend or fiancé, she plays the role with perfect feminine traits — soft, affectionate, loyal — because she sees him as her primary investment.

• At the same time, she may indulge in short-term thrills: a casual encounter with someone she meets on social media, during travel, or in a college party.

What most young men fail to realize is that women are capable of layered intimacy strategies. They know how to compartmentalize: one man for stability, another for thrill, and another for validation.

The Multiple Channels of Female Intimacy

Modern women are highly capable of managing parallel dynamics without confusion:

• Primary Relationship (Marriage/Long-term): The stable partner who provides safety, love, and social standing. Age profile matters in this case.

• Office/College Attraction: A thrill or backup, often linked to authority figures like managers, professors, or leaders.

• Social Media/Travel/Gym Encounters: Random, adrenaline-filled experiences with strangers — pure excitement with no strings.

The most unsettling part for men is that these channels rarely clash. Women are capable of running them simultaneously, often without guilt. In today’s culture, guilt has been rebranded as “choice.” What older generations called betrayal, the modern narrative calls empowerment.

Men vs Women: Different Games

Men, by contrast, play a different game entirely.

• A man, whether single or married, constantly scans for beauty. His attraction is broad: youth, curves, cleavage, skin tone, height — anything that signals fertility.

• For men, attraction is constant and widespread. They are always open to the idea of cheating.

• But here is the sharp difference: while men’s desire is endless, their opportunity is limited. Unless a man belongs to categories of power, wealth, charisma, or authority, his chances of acting on his desires are extremely low.

This contrast is brutal:

• Women’s desires are fewer but highly achievable. When a woman wants thrill, backup, or stability, her opportunities are abundant.

• Men’s desires are endless but mostly blocked. Unless they rise above the crowd, their chances remain minimal.

The Male Naivety

Most young men don’t see this. They think women will appreciate kindness, validation, or similarity in age. They invest time, effort, and emotions chasing women who were never going to pick them in the first place.

They waste their youth confused, frustrated, and resentful. But the truth is: women do not reward kindness without power. They reward authority backed with confidence.

This is why so many young techies feel betrayed when the girl who smiled at everyone suddenly gets entangled with the boss behind closed doors.

The Warning for Young Men: Build First, Then Choose

Here lies the core lesson: attraction is not a fair game. Women’s choices are not about storybook romance or logic. They are about instincts and hierarchy.

So, if you are in your early 20s, chasing women with validation, gifts, or blind hope, you are playing the wrong game. Stop being surprised when she ignores ten of you for the one man with authority. That is how the psychology works.
So stop being naïve. See the pattern. Don’t waste years confused by women’s choices. Understand that their deep desire is for the man in control, not the man who chases. If you want respect and desire, stop being one of the many followers. Start becoming the leader — because women, everywhere, always align with the boss/man in power.

Never try to indulge in relationships with women without first securing the three foundations of your life — MMS: Money, Muscle, and Social Influence. This ties directly into the spirit of MindMoneySoul and is a sharp reminder of what truly matters. Without these, relationships are not joy, but lifelong punishment.

If you do build these pillars, however, the story changes. You will have options — plenty of them. You can decide whether you want marriage or casual thrill, the power of choice shifts to you. And in that moment, you will realize the ultimate truth: attraction was never about fairness, it was always about power.

by: Rajan Veda